relationship tug of war, Tara Fields, Ph.D., LMFT

Feeling Frayed from a Tug Of War with your Partner? End it today!

November 8, 2016Feeling anxious and powerless? You are not alone. Anxiety and feelings of powerlessness are at an all time high. To assuage those feelings it helps to take charge of the things you can control. If you are in a power struggle with your partner you have the power to end it today.Here’s how….   Imagine a tug […]
Resolving conflict in relationships by Dr. Tara Fields, LMFT, Ph.D.

Tangled Up and Blue?

How To Ease A Conflict Loop In Your RelationshipConflict and Protections in ChildhoodOne thing we learn in childhood is how to create ways to feel safe and protect ourselves. As children, we are living in the land of giants and even if we have loving parents, there is still the occasion where a parent is towering over […]
gaslighting

You’re Not Nuts! (You’re Being Gaslighted)

Are you in a relationship that sometimes has you question your sense of self and even your sanity? Do you occasionally think, “Something just isn’t right here…”? Do you feel chronically insecure, but you’re not sure why?

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How To Stop Driving Love Away

No matter where we are in a relationship—newly dating or married for decades—we all want love and we all want connection. So what is it about conflict, uncertainty or disappointment with a partner that always seems to disconnect us and drive love away?

If you’re still dancing the “come-close-go away” with someone you care about, or just sabotaged yet another promising romance, maybe it’s time to look at what you’re doing and try something new. Read more

Transforming Conflict

New and never-ending conflict may garner big ratings on certain reality shows or guarantee an invite back for season two, but for those of us who live off screen, a constant stream of conflict can keep us steeped in misery.

But there are ways to handle the inevitable disagreements and disagreeable parts of life.

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The 10 Ways You Fight (and How to Really Win)

Here’s a newsflash: even the best couples fight.

It’s not conflict that drives couples apart

– in fact, a little disagreement with your spouse or partner can show commitment to the relationship. Over time, conflict can build trust in the idea that you can handle hard times together. Read more

My Brother, My Bully – When a Sibling Wields the Sword

Just when we think we have made significant inroads on bullying at school, a study published in the journal Pediatrics reveals that sibling bullying can be far worse than what happens at school.

According to a study of over 3,500 children (up to age 17), the long-term consequences of being bullied, Read more

Quiz: What Is Your Conflict Personality?

Here’s a newsflash: even the best couples fight. And it’s not conflict that drives couples apart – in fact, a little disagreement with your spouse or partner can show commitment to the relationship.

Over time, conflict can build trust in the idea that you can handle hard times together. It’s the way you and your partner fight that can drive a wedge between you.
This quiz will help you start to understand your conflict personality Read more