Entries by Tara Fields Ph.D., M.F.T.

Style Counsel

The challenge: dress slacks for a petite woman The budget: $200 or less The adviser: Tara Fields Ph.D., (pictured) TV and radio therapist Among the possibilities: Ralph Lauren Slim chocolate-brown wool/Lycra slacks with costs (for petites), $168, at Macy’s The solution: Banana Republic slim black wool/Lycra pinstriped slacks, $148, at Banana Republic, Mill Valley The […]

Expert: Jerry Sandusky’s Personality Disorder Defense Won’t Work

Originally posted: 06/22/2012 2:54 pm Updated: 06/27/2012 3:48 pm in The Huffington Post David Lohr davidlohr@davidlohr.net The jury in the child molestation trial of former assistant Penn State football coach Jerry Sandusky has days of testimony to consider, but one thing members likely won’t spend much time deliberating is the defense’s contention that he suffers […]

Advice I’d Give My Daughter

Resist going into therapy to cure your analysis paralysis. This week, I was on a panel at the Commonwealth Club with Dr. Tara Fields, a well-known Marin relationship therapist. Even Tara, who makes her living helping people to analyze the long-standing reasons for their behavior, agreed that no matter what your mother did to you, […]

Quiz: What Is Your Conflict Personality?

Here’s a newsflash: even the best couples fight. And it’s not conflict that drives couples apart – in fact, a little disagreement with your spouse or partner can show commitment to the relationship. Over time, conflict can build trust in the idea that you can handle hard times together. It’s the way you and your […]

The Favorite Child

Do you prefer one of your children? If you think your favoritism is no big deal—think again. The consequences for both the Golden Child and the runner-up can last a lifetime. The reality is that most parents will identify with one of their offspring more than the others, which is not harmful when all the […]