Entries by Tara Fields Ph.D., M.F.T.

The Real Reason Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner Are Still Wearing Their Wedding Rings

Tara Fields was recently quoted in Redbook magazine. Read the original article here. Ever since announcing their divorce, and subsequently depressing all of America, ​ Jen and Ben have been seen about town still wearing their wedding rings, which has frankly made it hard for us to grieve, and a little bit confused.Apparently they’re doing it to present […]

How To Stop Driving Love Away

No matter where we are in a relationship—newly dating or married for decades—we all want love and we all want connection. So what is it about conflict, uncertainty or disappointment with a partner that always seems to disconnect us and drive love away? If you’re still dancing the “come-close-go away” with someone you care about, […]

Transforming Conflict

New and never-ending conflict may garner big ratings on certain reality shows or guarantee an invite back for season two, but for those of us who live off screen, a constant stream of conflict can keep us steeped in misery. But there are ways to handle the inevitable disagreements and disagreeable parts of life.

Can Your Relationship Survive An Affair?

Scandalous affairs that end relationships grab headlines in the tabloids. Think Arnold, Tiger, and Petraeus to name a few. But in real life, like yours, a relationship can survive an affair and become even stronger than before. Over the years of counseling couples, whether famous or not, for those who are genuinely sincere about saving […]

Making Your Vows Last

Take a break from looking at floral arrangements, put down those honeymoon brochures for a minute, and read this…. After many years of counseling couples, I’ve found four key issues can make or break a marriage. Below are those issues and my tips on how to ensure a happy, successful marriage follows a picture perfect […]

Why This Married Heterosexual Relationship Therapist Supports the Legalization of Same-Sex Marriage

I truly believe that the institution of marriage will not change for the worse if the legal right to be married is extended to lesbian, bisexual, gay, or transgender couples. Everybody should have the right to make a legal and spiritual commitment to the person he or she loves and wants to spend the rest […]